You Must Trust Others

Organizing Your Mind
Chapter 11
You must Trust Others - If You want to Succeed

When I first read the start of this chapter I was
appalled! Reading it again I am no less appalled,
anyone who would do such a thing to a child, does
not deserve to have children! <Go here>

Continuing with the rest of the chapter in Harry Lorayne's
book on 'Secrets of Mind Power' :
This chapter is about trusting people and I can sure see
where someone would grow up trusting no one after that
treatment.

Lorayne talks of not liking books that have no 'meat' or as
he says are "'blue sky' - nice and flowery". He gives an
example of books that just, "preach, 'Have faith'; faith in
God or faith in yourself." He didn't write this to argue about
religion for he knows everyone has their own beliefs. He
feels '90 per cent' of those who read faith books know the
value of and believe 'that faith in God is almost a necessity
for a happy life'.

He feels though that 'God might prefer you to take care of
some of your own problems'. He doesn't think God expects
Him to solve all our problems, and not doing anything for
ourselves. Which reminds me of the story of the man who
was stuck in a tree during a flood. A boat comes by to
rescue him and he says, 'no thanks, I'm waiting for God to
rescue me.' More people try to rescue him, even a
helicopter, and he continues to say no, 'he is waiting on
God'. Having faith in God is recognizing when He is
helping you and not expecting some 'beam me up Scotty'
rescue solution.

Lorayne states that after all we do have a brain which
we are suppose to use to think for ourselves. He thinks
God had an ulterior motive when He gave us a brain; to
relieve some of His burden. I don't think I agree with that.
I think God's only burden would be having to watch people
be miserable instead of trusting in Him. God does want
us to put our complete faith in Him but He doesn't expect
us to just pray and then sit there waiting for something to
happen. He guides us in how we live our life, it is when
we think we can live with out Him that we get in trouble.

Harry Lorayne believes we also need to have faith in others
besides just God and I do agree as long as God is put first.
Lorayne quotes Andrew Carnegie, (He was one of the most
famous leaders of industry of the late 19th and early 20th
centuries.) concerning the secret of his success, "Faith in
myself, faith in others and faith in my business."

Whether he had faith in God or not, I don't know but by reading
his 'Bio' I would say he had good values. I would also say as
far as he was concerned, everyone getting a free education
was the most important thing he achieved not necessarily the
accumulation of money, which most people would consider as
being 'successful'.

Lorayne also admires the 'wise man' as he calls him who said,
"the Lord helps those who help themselves". A statement
which I am totally against. To me that statement has probably
caused a lot of criminal and selfish activity. It may have been
said as encouragement to people to take action in their lives
but I would say most people take it as permission to do all
kinds of selfish , unseemly activities. Also as some may think,
that quote is not from the Bible.

Lorayne understands that we can become cynical to a certain
extent in this day and age. (Which was in 1975 so now in 2010
there is more reason to be cynical since there are so many
more 'me first' people.) But if we are completely cynical we will
be very unhappy. He says that just because we have certain
bad experiences with different people, doesn't mean all people
will disappoint us.

What he is trying to say is if you have a problem take it to those
who are competent in solving your problem. He comments that
"'Faith in your fellow man' may be a cliche', but I think it's
important to have." He feels people fret over millions of things
that don't come to fruition because they have no faith in others.

As he quotes James A Garfield, (20th President of the USofA),
"I have had many troubles in my life, but the worst of them never
came." Lorayne says, quit worrying about things that haven't
happened and probably won't ever happen. Use your brain to
work on the important things and trust others to help you with
what you can't solve. Worrying about what others may do to
you is not good for your health and as Harry says, "your lack
of faith in others is 'not' trivial."

Dr Frank Crane, (a Presbyterian minister, speaker, and columnist
who wrote a set of ten volumes of "Four Minute Essays" and
other writings) said, "You may be deceived if you trust too much,
but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough."

But You Think People Take Advantage of You?
Lorayne talks of people in their jobs and not trusting their
co-workers or boss. We maybe feel people take advantage
of us and everyone is against us. He thinks maybe we
should examine ourselves and see if the fault is in us.
If we don't think we have any faults then we are deceiving
ourselves for none of us are perfect.

Lorayne thinks that if we think others are being chosen over
ourselves then maybe we should have a good look at our
own attitude. If we aren't as competent or talented as others
then we should work on being more competent. If we aren't
happy with what we are doing then Harry gives us two choices;
"learn to be happy at your work, or if you feel that is impossible,
find something else to do!"

Harry's solution on how to be happy at work: "Get interested in
the business; show a little enthusiasm for it. Find out everything
you can about your employer's problems; (I would say without
being invasive) turn your chores into interesting challenges; keep
your mind on what you can 'give' to the business instead of what
you can get out of it; don't be afraid of work.

Quoting Arthur Brisbane, (one of the best known American
newspaper editors of the 20th century) "The dictionary is the
only place where 'success' comes before work."

Lorayne suggests trying to do a little more work than what is
required of us. He believes of all those he quotes A. W.
Robertson says it all; "If a man does only what is required
of him, he is a slave. The moment he does more, he is a
free man." (Now is that his quote or a Chinese proverb?)

How conscientious are we at work? Do we dress neatly,
are we friendly, or do we always show discontent? Are
we boastful or a chronic complainer? If so, Harry says to stop
complaining about not getting a raise, be thankful we haven't
been fired!

Lorayne suggests we start having some faith in people if we
want to be more successful. The last person he quotes in
this chapter is Elbert Hubbard (an American writer, publisher,
artist, and philosopher.): "There are two kinds of
discontent in this world; the discontent that 'works', and
the discontent that wrings its hands. The first gets what it
wants, and the second loses what it had. There is no cure
for the first but success, and there is no cure at all for the
second."

Patricia Downing